My innocent Japanese wife... NOT!!
A lot of fed-up American men believe that outsourcing to Asia will solve all their feminista woman woes. As if Asian women are a whole 'nother species that live in an un-Americanized cultural vacuum. Well, this topic has already been covered here, but here's another installment on the danger of fantasy-based stereotyping, underestimating any women and lulling yourself into a false sense of security (and NO, this is not MY story, btw):
It turns out that for the entire year of 2002 my wife had an affair with this guy. She loved him and they had a sexual and emotional affair.
I never once doubted my wife and even braged to other Navy buddies that I did not have to worry about my wife cheating on me because she is such a lady.
I could write a book about this topic; and for those who don't know about Japanese women it may not seem logical what I am saying, but to sum up Japanese women in a word, I would choose this one: SELFISHWell, I think that one word would apply to most ALL women these days...and certainly not exclude Asian women! The sad fact is that feminism has gone viral and has reached every corner of the globe (although some more than others). There is simply no true refuge anymore...
I worry that a woman from any of these places would, upon moving to the U.S., eventually become like the Western members of her gender. This may not happen often, but I know two men whose Asian wives eventually became every bit as bad as any home-grown choice they might have made.This is because all your average women are parasitic opportunists - and will do as much as they think they can get away with. The main difference between Asian and AW is simply that AW currently have a few more options living in this feminist welfare state and possess more popular crossover sex-appeal (and thus leverage with men). But an Asian woman with all those same opportunities would exploit them just as well.
The more we unleash women, the more they will bite the hand that feeds them...
posted by byrdeye at 9:09 AM
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Sheesh... Women are as "parasitic" as men are superficial pigs. Its a matter of biology. Women are hard wired to look for providers because we birth children and are rendered dependent through child rearing and gestation. Men are superficial because they are hard wired to find a mate for optimum breeding.
I see so many men acting the superficial pig role (which is natural) but have the audacity to complain about the female equivalent.
Personally I believe, the whole western hemisphere is culturally fucked. We have too much appreciation for hedonism, materialism and superficiality. Not enough love for intellectualism or family values.
Japanese life expectancies for men and women: A "patriarchal" society?
Denise Noe
113-year-old Kaku Yamanaka, the oldest person in Japan recently died. For those unfamiliar with Japanese names, Kaku was a woman. Japan boasts of long average life spans with the average age at death being 85.81 years old for women and 79 years old for men.
That Japanese women tend to outlive their men for a full six years is a point to give one pause. Japan is frequently thought of as one of the world’s most deeply “patriarchal” societies. It is a society in which, until fairly recently, women were expected to walk behind their husbands. They were expected to wash their husbands’ feet and scrupulously obey them. (To what extent this is still the case I do not know.)
Yet Japanese women live a good many years after men. Why?
It seems to me that this points to several things. One is that, as is of necessity true everywhere in the world, those jobs in Japan that require the most physical strength and are the most physically dangerous, are usually filled by men.
It also indicates that male dominance is often a cover for greater male responsibility. Men in Japan bear the burden of financial support and this burden may lead them into a life that is seriously unbalanced and leaves them little time for the joys of the families that they are supporting. Phyllis Schlafly once observed that most husbands are easier to please than most bosses. The relative life expectancies of men and women in Japan appears to shore up that point.
Americans still have yet to see the connection between power and responsibility. All they see is power. Therefore, it is easy for them to believe that Old World cultures are "patriarchal" because the men have more visible "power."
What they DON'T see though is that that power is more than matched by RESPONSIBILITY. And in the end, is more burdensome to the men than the women.
Hence, men must use up their lifeforce faster and die 6 years earlier!
My friend is an American guy and found out that his Japanese wife - Junko Muto of Tokyo - is already married to another guy - She never got divorced from her first husband!
He is a succesful businessman living a very good life in Tokyo on assignment with a US company. He may have been somewhat naive about some of the Japanese women that he met in Tokyo. However, he was dating his future wife for over a year and he believed he knew her well. They eventually got married and it was too late when he found out the truth
Turns out she was married to a guy in the US and that didnt work out and she eventually came back to Japan. The thing is she was still legally married and the first marriage was still recognized in Japan. She parted with the first husband and set out to land a rich foriegn guy that could give her an expat wife lifestyle. She found my American friend.
She broke down and confessed to all of this after he discovered in a box of love letters from other guys that she had herpes from a previous boyfriend. Not only was she a bigamist, but gave my friend herpes as well.
I have heard other terrible stories about Japanese women, but this is one of the worst I have ever come accross. I was considering marrying a Japanese woman, but hearing this makes me think twice.
What do you think?
My friend is an American guy and found out that his Japanese wife - Junko Muto of Tokyo - is already married to another guy - She never got divorced from her first husband!
He is a succesful businessman living a very good life in Tokyo on assignment with a US company. He may have been somewhat naive about some of the Japanese women that he met in Tokyo. However, he was dating his future wife for over a year and he believed he knew her well. They eventually got married and it was too late when he found out the truth
Turns out she was married to a guy in the US and that didnt work out and she eventually came back to Japan. The thing is she was still legally married and the first marriage was still recognized in Japan. She parted with the first husband and set out to land a rich foriegn guy that could give her an expat wife lifestyle. She found my American friend.
She broke down and confessed to all of this after he discovered in a box of love letters from other guys that she had herpes from a previous boyfriend. Not only was she a bigamist, but gave my friend herpes as well.
I have heard other terrible stories about Japanese women, but this is one of the worst I have ever come accross. I was considering marrying a Japanese woman, but hearing this makes me think twice.
What do you think?
you're being naïve in your assumption that your experience is a result of a woman's nationality, heritage, or even gender. this type of behavior can be attributed to a woman's membership in the human species alone, as you can find the same thing happening among men and women of many countries.
it also seems that you are basing your opinion of an entire segment of society on a very small number of incidents. if you know one faithless japanese woman, surmising that there are others like her is understandable. to say that all, most, or even a sizable chunk of japanese women are the same say is an unsupportable stretch.
OK everyone!!!!!Fisrt of all you should learn something about Japanese(I lived in Japan two years,my ex-wife was Japanese. No means yes and yes means no,always remember that!
I'm writing this because i don t want other men to live the hell I had to go threw in Japan!!!!
Anyway, we met in Canada, she was travelling like so many Japanese do!!! So we went out together everithing was fine!!!!After that she got pregnant,we decided to keep the baby and since we were back in my home town at that time we decided that she was going to deliver in Canada,that was fine with both of us!!!!
About two weeks after that, her family came to meet me and my family!Everything was fine her parents were so nice!They said 'he looks like a good men ,he has good family,Canada is a great country, you stay in Canada and you guys have a family!!!!They said that in front of me and my parents!!!
Wow everything is perfect I thought!So three days later she tells me ,'I want to deliver in Japan,be near my family then we will come back to live in Canada!!!
I did not agree,I thought we should stay in Canada and get prepared and just could not understand that three days before we had decided both families that it was better to stay in Canada!!!!
I wanted her to be relax ,so i did agree!!!!Her plan was to go to Japan right away by herself ,i would stay in Canada and she would come back 6 months after the baby was born!!!!
I did agree but not the part where i would not see my son be born,see him only six months after!!!So we decided that i was going to Japan for the delivery ,we would stay there couple month for her to get better and come back to Canada!!!!
So six months later ,I was in Japan with my wife and her family ,I got a job teaching and passing flyers !!!
That was the biginning of the end!!!!First when I got to Japan ,her attitude towards me had changed!She did not seem to be so happy to see me!!She was distant!!!!I thought ,OK she is pregnant it's not easy ,things will get better!!!
Anyway, she delivered and we got married at the court hall!!!
At that point our relationship was not so great,she expected me to behave like a Japanese men!!!I don t know how to explain that but this is a Japanese tipycal family,The men works, the wife is a house wife,and the relationship is cold!!!!I don t want to generalize but this is how it is in Japan!!Hard to explain!!!!!
At that point i did not know what to expect anymore she pushed away our return to Canada,i had to work in Japan and i had a lot of stress!!!
One day we had a big argument about all that,i could not keep going like this, she was very selfish,she did not care what i felt,we had to go back to Canada!
I can t remember all the details of this argument but it ended up like this,she tells me "i'm in my country i have money i keep baby, you go back to Canada!!!!!
Let me tell you something,you don't want to be there!!!! I snaped that day, i never was violent with women but when she told me that i was so hangry and I pushed her away,ok that was bad from me!!!! there is no excuse (i pushed her,not beat the c.... out of her or punch her in the face)
That was it , it was divorce , I was a bad men....
You don't want to divorce in Japan with kids it is very bad!there is no joint custidy in Japan.I refused the divorce for a year because of the conditions:no custidy, i could not be by myself with my kid,visits right of three days a month and the family court judge who tells me "No problem you can talk to your son from internet from Canada.
I did sign the divorce and accepted those conditions:no custidy,visit rights 3 days a month,300$ i would pay to my wife every month plus help her out to pay for school ,clothes etc....
I had no other choice....
I asked her to help me out and sign for my visa so that i could stay in Japan and take care of my son!She refused ,so i could not stay in Japan!!!I did manage to get a visa by myself but let me tell you it was hard and stressful.I paid 300$ each month, i saw my son about three times a month. One day she comes to my place and announce me that she wants to move to europe with my son!!!Hey i'm from canada ,i live in japan for my son and now what,i'm going to have to move in Europe!!!!She did not want me to know him and her family too!!It is custom in Japan when they get divorce and have kids usually the father is pushed away.Before we were divorce i gave my son a name,secretly she gave her last name to my son(that in Japan takes away all my rights to my son)if she would die my son goes to her parents.She never gave him the first name we decided 'Alex',she gave him a Japanese first name!(BE carefull if you Japanese wife is pregnant she will tell you to put the japanese name because it is easyer for paper work in Japan,All the guys i met who had a Japanese wife had the same story,in fact it will take away all your rights when in Japan(only in Japan,because no other countrys have laws that protects child abduction)
When her parents came to Canada to meet my family ,they came to tell her to go back to Japan,but to my family they said'it's better if they stay in Canada!This is call TATEMAE in Japanese,telling you one thing but doing the opposite!
If you don't believe me or you think my case is unique go see this website www.crnjapan.com or type child abduction in japan on you tube!!!!
She now lives and got married in Norway!I don't see my son anymore!
I was not right to push her that day,but every men has it's own limits!I was trapped ,that is what happened but it was too late when i realized!!! Innocent Japanese wife,I don't think so!!!!
I made friends in Japan,most foreigners who have Japanese girlfriend run into problems.You see so many young couples japanese and foreigners but never saw one old couples! I sympathised for one of my good friend over there who lives in Japan for 15 years for his daughter, she is now 15 years old but he still can't see her by himself,guess what we had about the same situation in Japan!!!!
To the one who say that western culture is f.....!I would recommend you to stop watching Geisha movies and the last samurai!I think you should go work and live in Japan for a Japanese company (as I did)and realized how they are!They are always so nice when they come travel in your country but it is manners only!Once you live there you ll realize!I always had that image of Japanese beeing so innocent,so polite, but living there i learned that they are so cold ,they have no mercy, they are emotion less people!I trusted them at the time but guess what if anyone would tell me they are in love with a Japanese girl I say 'be very very careful!!! In every country there are selfish people,Japanese girls are extremely selfish and spoiled ,I explain you why!First you know how we usually should not generalize, in Japan it is different ,you can generalize because it is a totalitarian kind of society ,everyone acts the same!You can talk to 50 girls but they all have the same kind of goals,they talk the same way!They are spoiled usually!Most japanese family are more then average regarding money,so for exemple this girl I knew is 20 years old,she wants to go study english in australia,she ask her parents 20 000 dollars for a year,they give it to her right away, they buy 600$ pierce and bags and watch.They think all girls in other country have those lui vuitton bag!!!!When they have a boyfriend they usually have a PAPA like they call that!!A Papa is an old men who likes them and pay expensive things for them,so they have a boyfriend they love and an old men who pays expensive things!So they pretty much always get what they want.Guess what when they are with a foreigner they think it s going to be the same!
In conclusion what do you expect from a country where the ex prime minister Koizumi when he got divorce,denyed custidy to his wife, and to this day she can t see her own children(you can verify it is true)
So if you want to be happy please get a girl from your country your going to save yourself many problems!!!!(sorry for my english I'm french )
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